The ‘I’m Right, You’re Wrong’ Debate

Alright, so I haven’t been the best at keeping up when it comes to the whole blogging thing. The last year has kept me so constantly busy that I just haven’t sat down to make time for it. I do a fairly good job at staying out of the drama in the paranormal field (or anywhere) and I am actually quite proud of that. Issues arise and recede like flood waters – a tumultuous mix of differing opinions and theories – and I tread quietly through it all as best I can. Occasionally, I am swept up in a storm I never saw coming, and what a nasty ride that can be!

It’s true, the paranormal community is not the only community riddled with conflict; human beings have a way of stirring up trouble no matter what they are involved in, but the paranormal field is what I know and love, and therefore, it draws most of my attention.

My current frustration? Honestly, it’s the never-ending debate over who’s doing it right vs. who’s doing it wrong. First, it has to be asked, who out of any of us is THE definitive expert on the paranormal? You? Me? Sorry folks… I don’t have an answer for this one. There are many people I look up to and work with that I consider to be experts on different areas within the paranormal, but I certainly do not believe any ONE person or ONE theory is the end-all-be-all to everything.

If we are all in search of answers, why do we spend so much time cutting each other down? Is that sort of behavior going to bring us any closer to enlightenment? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t buy into everything I read or hear, and I have definitely formed my own personal opinions about people, places, equipment, techniques, etc. However, I have found that if I disagree with someone, it doesn’t mean either of us are right or wrong. I have no problem leaving them to their own devices and walking the other way. This is not to say that I condone ALL behavior in the paranormal field. Sadly, there are those individuals whose intentions are only to cause harm or to bilk the public out of their money with one scam or another. Again, this is a universal human experience, and not exclusive to the paranormal field. Easy solution for me is to simply choose to not be a part of it.

If you spend your time so wrapped up in what everyone else is doing wrong, how do you devote any time to doing what you feel is right? If you think something should be done a certain way, get out there and do it! If you’re worried about other people faking evidence, don’t fake yours. Don’t believe in psychics? Easy answer is, don’t use them. Whether you subscribe to a completely scientific/skeptical view, a more spiritual/open-minded one, or anywhere in between, you have the right to pursue answers right alongside those that disagree with you.

It is completely expected that people will disagree with you no matter what you do or believe in. Thing is, if they can disagree tastefully, and with some tact, chances are that eventually you just might learn something from one another in the end.

I love the work that I do, and I have an amazing support system in my team. Would I still be doing things the same way if they weren’t behind me? Yes, because it has never been my intent to convince anyone of anything. I just happen to be one of the lucky ones surrounded by people who are working toward the same end.

Do what you know, do what you love, because it’s up to you (and you alone) to travel the road you’re on. No one said you had to take anyone else with you on the trip.

~April Slaughter

One Response to “The ‘I’m Right, You’re Wrong’ Debate”

  1. Dave says:

    Great blog Aril. I think you are correct about people saying I’m right your wrong. First of all how do they know there right when this isn’t an exact science yet. Secondly how can you truly say you are a Paranormal investigator and turn around and say psychics are fakes. It seems that psychics are a form of the paranormal, are they not. It goes back to the I’m right your not situation. You belive in ghosts etc. which usally cant be seen but psychics who have some definitive proof (and we can see psychics, lol) arent to be believed. Give me a break they desreve just as much if not more respect for their ability in the paranormal investigations field. If you are atrue and honest investigator you should want to use any available means in your investigations. Especially until the method is finally proven or disproven. Good luck to you and your team. I just ran across your web site and survey on facebook and became a fan immediately. I am now going through your web site and love it. by the way look for my survey answers, I hope you like them and would love the opportunity to discuss them in more detail with you or someone someday. I beleive you can find my survey by checking your e mail, if thats how you do it. Thanks again for the survey, I think more people should do those. Dave

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